Man, it is so easy to get comfortable in our safe ways.
We are creatures of habit. A big part of our life is routine and staying sheltered.
And at times it is needed.
When we were young, our parents, teachers, and coaches made sure we were safe. We were not prepared to protect ourselves, so others helped us through that stage. The environment we were put in was often not chosen by us.
Growing up, we are taught to get safe jobs through school. If you’re like me, you were easily influenced during these years and listened to this advice. We then find ourselves in those steady, corporate jobs and become scared of other options. I almost hear “Hey, it’s not as always greener on the other side” more now than the alternative. That is Fear poking it’s head.
But if there is one thing I know, it’s that change will happen whether we like it or not. It’s the basic principle of nature.
Your environment will change – sometimes it’s a new school, a new jobs, a new house, a new city…
Those you spend time with will change. People will come into your life. Others will leave…at times unexpectedly.
The way I look at it is we only have control of our response to change if it occurs externally. We must look out for ourselves and those we care about. We have to overcome change at times, while other times it comes as a pleasant surprise.
But often, the problem is our resistance to this inevitable change that occurs. We think we’re the center of the universe during these times. We try to fight this force because it is disturbing our safe environment that we are finally comfortable in.
But here’s the thing – Mother Nature doesn’t care about your plans. She has plans of her own.
So taking all of this into consideration, I was trying to decide on a new approach, and at first I thought – Embrace Change
This isn’t too far off from where my theme ended up. Embrace Change is definitely part of my theme. I really like the idea of being open to change because a part of me is often scared of what is to come. But that lead me to the issue that is even more at the heart of what I want to accomplish – Fighting My Resistance to Change
It’s a slight frame shift. I felt this to be more empowering because it puts more of the accountability on me to do the work.
Resistance is a big part of this personal battle. Embracing change is more of a passive concept. To me, it implies staying open to the external change that will occur in my life. I want to focus more on the self-created change. Noticing my natural defenses to this change and fighting/rewiring those faulty impulses is more of what I’m after.
So that is my 2015 Theme – Fight My Resistance to Change so I can eventually embrace both change that is forced on me, as well as create the necessary change I desire.
Change isn’t good. Change isn’t bad. Change just is.